Monday, June 21, 2010

One of those moments I wasn't ready for....

My 16 year old has had a boyfriend for just over 10 months....and that relationship is no more. This boy was every parent's dream for their daughter: polite, respectful, intelligent, hardworking, cute...just an all-around nice guy. She has decided that she "doesn't have feelings" for him anymore....and that is complete BULL!! She broke up with him last Sunday, but he came over Monday...and Tuesday...AND Wednesday! Hello?! When I broke up with a guy, I surely didn't want him back over at my house....and especially not the next 3 days! When she looks at him, it's that same doe-eyed, love-struck look that it used to be! I just don't get it. 
...And that's the easy to swallow news....the bombshell? That she's no longer saving herself for marriage! (Yeah....I know....not the kind of thing that I should be blogging about, but I'm trying to deal with this and get through it the best that I can).
I haven't been able to sleep much since I found all of this out. A few hours here and there, but that's about it. I ended up sending her to stay with some family out of the state so I could try to deal with it without making our relationship more strained than it already is right now. It's not going very well. All I can think about is the fact that my little girl has made a few huge mistakes and that there isn't anything I can do to fix them. That's a really sucky feeling...I am THE FIXER around here...I'm lost as to what I should be doing and how I should be feeling right now. There really aren't any words to describe what I'm feeling and thinking right now.
While she has been gone I have been writing to her daily. I'm going to give her the notebook when she gets home. I'm hoping it will help her to understand why I sent her up there and how it was the best thing for both of us at that time. She told her (ex)boyfriend that I'm just as bad as my mother, since Debbie gave me away and I'm giving her away. When he told me that, I lost it.  I haven't given her away! I knew we needed a break from each other while I digested this HUGE news...I was having a very hard time with the fact that she wouldn't talk to me....and yeah, she still isn't talking to
I'm sure this won't be the last post on this topic.....but this is all I can get out for now.


Carla Sue said...

Hey T...Its a tough situation that you are in...I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. If you need anything, let me know. Call. Text. Visit to talk. And if you want to extend the offer to the lil lady, and she needs someone to talk to, I am here...*hugs*

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